I'll make another oddball recommendation for you.
Yamazaki 18. It's only about $130. Very smooth, complex and subtly different from Scottish single malt. It's been a favorite of mine for a couple years. Definitely not too hot and spirity. If be surprised if you didn't like it, and I guarantee you that you won't be dumping it out.
While you're ordering that, pick up a bottle of Hibiki 12 for fun, it's a Japanese blended whisky. You'll be amazed at how good and complex a $50 blend can be. Nothing like the Scottish blends. The Japanese grain alcohol is much smoother and floral. I suspect you'll like it's sweetness.
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